I roll my eyes when I read tweets by other escorts which imply that they’ve got money problems, the same boys and girls who will tell you about their overnight a few days ago and the lavish gifts that they were presented with. Many escorts let the money slip through their fingers like sand and need the fix of their next appointment to pay the bills that matter, however you need to invest in your service to gain new clients and by that I mean invest in yourself, not the latest bag from Mulberry or Michael Kors.
There’s a popular misconception in escorting circles that we’re all child abuse victims from divorced parents, in and out of childrens homes with a history of shoplifting, drug abuse and alcohol dependency, yes some are, but I have rarely come across anyone who fits that bill. The good looking escorts with the near perfectly written, well polished websites, tend to be university educated, had a good upbringing and want to do this work voluntarily. I certainly do. I have never met anyone who has been forced into sex work or trafficked for that matter, although some people do argue that if a driver takes me to Scotland for an outcall he is technically trafficking me.
I also work as an accountant, so I am very good at bookkeeping and guys wonder at times why someone with a nice house, like I have, with professional qualifications, would want to sell their sexual services to other men. I fell into this completely by accident, I didn’t just wake up one day and think “Gee….I think I’ll shag blokes for a few quid”, I played with it for a few years and then cranked up the steam when I realised that I was sat on a lot of untapped opportunities and potential. I quickly found out that you need to invest in yourself. I do quite a number of overnight appointments, I travel to see guys throughout the UK and Europe and I need to look good and that “looking good lark” costs money.
I don’t think I look my age, some men probably don’t agree with me, but I don’t think I do. I have used day and night cream for over fifteen years, I use eye cream, I keep my hair nicely groomed, I have a back wax once a month and try and keep myself as youthful as possible. I don’t have any lines or wrinkles on my face, I have a little bit of a belly which I have had my entire life, I don’t have a washboard stomach or live religiously in the gym. I watch my weight every day and appeal to guys as the guy next door or the normal bloke that they know at work.
Clients want the best price possible. I am always reading on client forums about what they consider to be a reasonable price to pay and generally speaking most men outside of London seem to expect to pay around £100 an hour for a gay male, transexual or female escort. There are male escorts for women around and their prices tend to be considerably lower and it’s a very specialised niche market too, I certainly don’t know of many who can make a success of it but obviously some do. I charge £90 for the first hour to visit me and £100 for an hour to visit a guy locally. I charge £500 for overnight, incall or outcall and £800 if I have to travel out of the UK. I think I have my pricing about right.
Not every working girl and boy has an incall premises and incalls are the most popular form of escort work. Most men want to visit you and if you can’t work from home then you may consider renting a flat, or hiring a serviced apartment or hotel for a few days. What the guys don’t realise is that in order to offer them an incall you have overheads, they forget about that. If you are using a hotel then you have the hotel, your food and refreshments to pay for. If you are touring from city to city you also have transport costs and you still have to pay the bills at home. This is why I never tour. Why should I go to Manchester to see six guys in one day, have three cancel on me and lose two appointments back in Newcastle. It would have cost me money to see those two or three remaining clients because their fee may just about have broken me even for the day and I could have just stayed at home, seen two guys and been better off.
Clients will say from time to time “Well it can’t cost you much more money to offer incalls from home” and this is where they are very wrong. Should I not be entertaining then there will be one shower run the entire day but if I am entertaining and it’s a busy day, three clients can generate ten showers, from their use, my use and sometimes our joint use of the facilities. That’s an increase of 1000% resulting in more water being used, more electricity and gas being used for heating the water and house, more toiletries being used, more towels being used and the washing machine and tumble dryer being used afterwards. My washing machine and tumble dryer is on every day but if I didn’t do sex work, my washing machine would be on a maximum of twice a week and the tumble dryer on once a fortnight for towels, however as I am washing top sheets, bedding and towels every day (the bedding not so much, no one ever gets under the top sheet) the laundry is never ending. Sex workers and laundry go hand in hand.
Every month I scour sites online, I buy new jockstraps and thongs, sexy new shorts and tee shirts for daytime appointments, I go into town and get new shirts for more formal evening appointments at hotels. I have over 300 formal and casual shirts in seven wardrobes. I have over ten formal and tweed jackets and I even have a tuxedo. I have hand made shoes, casual shoes and canvas shoes. I have over ten pairs of swimming shorts for hotels. I have four dressing gowns for overnight clients. I have drawers and drawers of underwear. I have an armoire wardrobe in the client room that’s full of sex toys, paddles, handcuffs, whips and a box of womens underwear in there for men who like to dress up. I buy stockings and tights for clients to wear (I don’t cross dress) and this all has to be bought in and ready for any eventuality. I have actually lost a one hour appointment because I didn’t have any American tan tights in the house for a guy to wear during an appointment. I have never been caught short since. Last week I had a client ask if I had a very thin thong that I could wear. I asked him what colour he would like. He asked what colours I had. I had to text him back with a list of what he could have. He text back “Blimey Steve, I will choose the black please”. I had three different black thongs so had to make a corporate decision myself on which one to choose rather than confuse him even more.
Most clients will use one or two condoms in an appointment, some don’t use any if it’s just oral sex but some clients will use six or seven. I get most of mine for free but I do have to buy them too, my bottles of lube cost £10 for three 250ml bottles. I can go through half a bottle in one appointment, some guys seem to slap on as much as they possibly can in very generous quantities. The client en-suite bathroom has a selection of shower gels, two different hand washes, alcohol hand cleanser, mouth wash, two types of deodorant, hair gel and even a cologne for them to use. I have a jug of infused lemon water on the side of the dressing area with two glasses, always filled to the brim with ice cubes so it’s chilled to perfection.
If I offer an incall overnight, I charge the same as I do for an outcall overnight. I only offer incall overnights to men I have seen before and I ask for 24 hours notice. On an incall overnight I am very much in charge and I cook a meal, I supply wine, prosecco and spirits and if it’s a fine night I offer drinks on the patio outside. I can easily spend £50 to £60 preparing for an incall overnight and so they cost me more than turning up to your hotel for an outcall overnight where I have a taxi or parking cost and where you treat me to dinner. I put freshly laundered, expensive, crisp bedding on, make sure the house is at a perfect temperature and buy scented candles and fragrance sticks. I make it a perfect experience but as you can see, that costs money too.
I won’t beat about the bush, if you are good looking, well groomed, highly sexually active, people friendly and have a good personality then you can make a lot of money being an escort but if you don’t invest in yourself you won’t get the clients to come back. You need them to come back because after a year of doing sex work about 75% of your clients should be returning customers and you need to let them see that you are investing in yourself and putting the effort in to make their time enjoyable. Yes they come for the sex but they don’t want to see messy rooms with clothes on the radiator or a bathroom with underwear lying all over the place. Some guys aren’t fussy but many are and they do take notice.
I invest in myself and I have found that I have reaped dividends and rewards for doing so. I love it when a client compliments my home and feels safe being here, I love it when they compliment me personally and say it’s been a pleasure to visit. Investment is always the way forward in any line of business, especially sex work.